While my child does in fact, learn at home and will continue to do so, during the last few months I've been gradually coming to to the conclusion that maybe it's better for my sanity if I dissassociate myself with any groups or resources that wear the "homeschoolers" label.
It's because I'm so tired of the "Guarding of the Territory" that goes on.
Even as recently as four years ago, when I first became involved with online homeschooling communities, there was a "live and let live" attitude: do what works for you. If you run into problems and ask for other options, I'll tell you what works for me in case it will give you some ideas.
But there has been a change and I don't understand it.
Now, when someone asks for help and options other than the person's current approach are offerred, the person feels attacked. Why?
People cling to labels and assignations of methodology so much more tightly now than they did just a few years ago. Why?
There are now what I can only describe as factions instead of moms just doing what works for themselves and their families, factions that get tetchy and argue about what IS or ISN'T valid for their particular methodology. Why does everything have to fit into one particular list of parameters?
Mixing "methods" seems to be frowned upon more in recent years. Women seem to agonize over whether they are This Sort of Homeschooler or whether they are That Sort of Homeschooler. I want to smack them. Just teach your kid. Be there for them, help them learn, and quit spilling pixels over what kind of homeschooler you are.
I've heard someone say, "Oh, I could never be an unschooler, even though I love so much about the idea, because I don't think you can unschool math!" So don't unschool math then. Big flipping whoopie. But no: I've gotten heat for saying exactly that. It's all or nothing with so many homeschoolers: you're either This Method or That Method and never the twain shall blend. Ever.
I don't understand why so many homeschooling mothers have so much emotionally invested in their particular brand of homeschooling. I don't care how you homeschool your kid, not unless you come to me, pulling your hair out, ready to quit homeschooling because you're so burnt out and frustrated; then, and only then, will I advocate for my approach IF it seems to me that what you are struggling with is similar to what brought me to homeschool the way that I do.
Otherwise, I don't give a flying rip. And the fact that so many homeschooling moms do makes my head hurt.
The mere existence of other approaches to homeschooling seems to threaten some homeschooling moms. I do not understand why and I wish it didn't matter.
Want proof that I'm not making this up? Highlight the following: Watch the defensiveness break out in the comments of any post ever, anywhere, on any blog, that is saying what I am saying.